My Life in Boxes

Moving is a lot of work, but packing up your worldly goods and transporting them from point A to point B is fairly straightforward. I wish that had been the case in my situation. My move from PA to FL involved a few “extra” steps:


  • Packing to be ready for the movers on August 28th
  • Coordinating the arrival and unloading of my belongings at the destination on September 1st
  • Designating certain boxes to be first on the truck, so they could be last off the truck, so that I would have easier access to them once they were put in storage
  • Leaving cleaning supplies, vacuum, lights, some tools, and an assortment of other items needed to clean up the apartment until September 2nd, when I had to turn in the keys
  • Moving those items to a friend’s house until my final departure on October 20th
  • Leaving enough clothes, toiletries, computer, and other items needed for day-to-day living until my final departure on October 20th

Of course, there was a lot of other things going on during this time that made it even more chaotic.

  • I had just returned from FL on August 2nd after spending two weeks getting my daughter situated. She accepted a position in Orlando and we had to get her a car and an apartment, so that she was ready to start work on July 27th.
  • My mother had about two doctor appointments each week, from September 1st until the time I left.
  • I was frantically trying to get instructions in place for the person who would take over my job. I was already working a reduced schedule so that I could take mom to her appointments.
  • I was dealing with many emotions during this whole time: guilt, fear, sadness, and excitement to name a few

I spent three weeks packing a two bedroom apartment and at one point it felt like I would NEVER get every single thing packed. I had moved eight years prior and left a lot of stuff behind, but had acquired a few new things along the way. I couldn’t fathom what it must be like to pack an entire house, complete with attic and basement. I couldn’t do it.

Right now me and my belongings are in limbo. I’m living temporarily with my son and daughter-in-law, who graciously invited me to stay with them while I job search. Because this is a new start, I really want to make good decisions. I want to hold out for a job that is truly meaningful. Which job that is, I’m not sure.

Job Search GIF

My son came in from work the other day and asked me if I was keeping busy. I responded, “Oh, yes. I’m busy trying to find myself.”

He reminded me that I’m 54 years old and if I haven’t found myself yet, I probably never will.

But I remain hopeful.



Items of Interest

Twitter responded to the the terrorist threats against Belgium, made over the weekend of November 21st,  in a very unique way:  cat memes.

During the city wide lockdown citizens initially  began tweeting information about the on-going operation. Police quickly requested, via tweet, that the public not share any  information. They complied by replacing those tweets with a variety of cat memes. I believe that by responding to threats with humor, they showed the terrorists that the citizens of Brussels will not be intimidated, as well as their love of cats.

As a current job searcher I’m always on the lookout for advice that can help achieve the desired result (getting hired.) According to this self test on Resume Genius, hiring managers take only six seconds in deciding whether to keep or trash a resume.

It offers ten different resumes and you have to choose, within six seconds each, which ones you’d keep or toss. Once you receive your score (the average score is 6, I got a 5) you’re then shown three resumes. Of those candidates you must choose the best one, after which you’re shown what percentage of the test-takers chose each of the three candidates.

The purpose of the exercise is to illustrate the importance of having a well done resume, both in appearance and content. It was fun, informative, and a real eye opener!

This list caught my eye on November 19th, which was this year’s Great American Smokeout. As a former smoker (I’ve been “clean” for four years and seven months) I wanted to see which ones I had utilized in my own efforts to stop smoking. It turns out that of the ten, I had practiced six.

It wasn’t my  first attempt to quit; there were many over the years. I wasn’t a heavy smoker. I didn’t reach for a cigarette first thing in the morning and refrained from smoking in the car or while I was doing other tasks. Despite quitting several times for varying periods of time, I always went back. I believe that was because I wasn’t truly committed. Once I made up my mind that I was going to quit for good, I was able to do it. Mind over matter in addition to some good strategies was the ticket I needed to finally kick the habit!

This is a wonderful story about a  man, Hyong Yi, who honored his late wife on the first anniversary of her death by handing out 100 love notes to total strangers.

Each note was numbered and, when read in order, chronicled their life together. Hyong encouraged the recipients to pass the messages on to a loved one and even supplied a blank card to write their own notes on. His goal wasn’t to gain attention on the Internet, but to simply remember his wife is a loving way.

Many of the people responded in a positive way and these heartfelt thoughts can be found on

After spending sixteen years in prison on sexual assault charges, Luis Vargas was cleared on November 23rd after new DNA evidence linked the crime to another man.

Stories like this really get to me. Imagine being wrongly accused of a serious crime and then being put in prison for it. Sixteen years is a long time to have taken from you. I can’t fathom what that must feel like.

Thankfully the advancements in science have made DNA testing possible and will hopefully prevent these types of horrific mistakes from being made.


Coffee Date

If we were having coffee right now…I’d ask your opinion about the tragic events in Paris and why the media gave no attention to a similar tragedy in Beirut. I’d want to know your thoughts about what the United States and other civilized countries in the world should do to fight these terrorists. I’d ask you if you ever worry about being a target when you’re in a public place or get on an airplane, because I do.

If we were having coffee right now…I’d talk about my job search and how I’m having a hard time deciding which jobs to apply to. Because I’m an “older” candidate with a work history, I want to be somewhat discriminating. I want to do something that I truly enjoy and is meaningful. I went back to school as an adult, so that I would be eligible for better jobs, but money isn’t the only criteria. I’m afraid I’ll apply and be hired for the wrong position and miss out on the right position. Good grief, how can I decide?

If we were having coffee right now…I’d want to know if you ever went on a cruise and, if so, do you recommend it as a great vacation? I’d also want to know if you’ve ever been to the Caribbean and, if so, which island you’d recommend. Same for Europe.

If we were having coffee right now…I’d want to know what you’re currently reading, who your favorite Th is, and if you feel movies ever do their books justice. Being an avid reader, I enjoy hearing about a good read. Same for movies; what have you seen lately that you can recommend?

If we were having coffee right now…I’d talk about all the projects I’d like to tackle:  organizing family photos, creating two scrapbooks, trying my hand at homemade cards, painting some furniture, and teaching myself some new skills through online resources.

If we were having coffee right now…I’d tell you that I started Couch Potato to 5K (again), but this time I’m hopeful that I can finish it, since I can run on my beloved beach and I have more spare time. I’d talk about how I want to join a gym, so that I can do weight training, as well. Then I’d ask your thoughts on gym memberships and see if I can convince you to join with me.

If we were having coffee right now…I’d ask about your life and family. I’d ask what important things you have going on and any special events coming up. Then I’d treat you to another coffee (or danish) because you’ve been such a great listener!