The Daily Post | Tour Guide

Landscape of red barn set against green background and blue sky

Living in small town USA offers a nice variety of different landscapes. I love this shot of the classic red barn with cows grazing on the hillside. With the pop of color against the background of greenery and blue skies, I can almost smell the fragrant summer air.


 

 

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If you continue driving about an hour past the rural setting above you’ll arrive in downtown Pittsburgh, PA. This urban landscape shot is highlighted with the Cathedral of Learning (University of Pittsburgh) in the center.

The photo represents traditional big city life. There’s an eclectic mix of old and new architecture. On the left is a modern, circular structure, while the buildings on the right reflect the beautiful designs of bygone eras.

The car and traffic lights add radiance to the downtown scene along with the green bicycle casually parked on the left. 


 

Old storefront; small town and weathered

Sandwiched between city and country are the small towns. They come in many different shapes and sizes, but most have remnants like this one tucked away on a side street.

Weathered and peeling this brick building has seen its heyday. And yet there’s something enchanting about it. Maybe because this vintage storefront reminds me of the ones I used to frequent as a kid. They sold assorted sundries, penny candy, and memories to last a lifetime. Sitting amid the strip plazas and new construction they’re a haunting reminder that we can never go back.


 

Shady Path

We’re blessed to have the beautiful 260+ acre Buhl Park in our area, complete with a lake and adjacent free golf course (the only one in the U.S.)

I have many photos in all seasons from this wonderful location. I appreciate this particular one because of the sun-dappled path strewn with aged evergreen needles. 

Growing up we found an adventure around every corner (like the one pictured) and summer gave us the freedom to roam from morning till night. Like the brilliant greenery and dried, brown needles, each year brought new experiences to add to the old favorites.

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How To Be Victorious in One Postive Step

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Some of the toughest battles we fight are with ourselves.

Whether it’s having that second piece of pie or getting the last word in a disagreement, we often act impulsively instead of deliberately with careful thought.

Everyday life is filled with external stress that comes from our relationships, jobs and a multitude of other places. While it’s impossible to control these outside circumstances, we do have the power to control our attitudes about them.

I’ve written before about the need for self-reflection when it comes to building a better life and relationships. Understanding ourselves fully will explain why we react to certain people and situations in the ways that we do.

In turn, this understanding teaches us to harness automatic emotions and use careful thought and reasoning when making decisions. Foresight makes hindsight unnecessary.

But, where do these automatic emotions come from?

If a given experience or person causes us to have a negative reaction then we’ll associate the next similar experience with suspicion and distrust. Sometimes simply thinking about the person/experience is enough to trigger bad feelings. This is called generalization of learning and can reinforce the self-defeating behaviors that often result.  

However, we must consciously want to develop this skill and that requires changing how we think.

None of us is 100% right all the time. Our different worldviews and histories shape our opinions and beliefs. We certainly have our unique perceptions of things, but that doesn’t mean the other person is wrong.

It simply means that your experience and his/hers are different, as well as the impressions that go along with those experiences.


When we think of being victorious it’s usually in the context of winning a competition with someone else.

But, many hard-fought victories involve ourselves. Understanding our habit of viewing other people and ideas in a certain way will help us identify the areas we need to work on. 

If we remain rigid in our opinions and unwilling to listen to another’s POV, then we’re destined to remain stuck. No personal growth is possible.

But, why do people choose ignorance over enlightenment? I believe it’s due to familiarity and fear. We’re more comfortable with things that are familiar and we’re fearful of looking incompetent.

Stepping outside our comfort zone and being vulnerable requires a lot of courage. We want to feel safe and that’s more easily achieved in a familiar environment. Being vulnerable means admitting we’re “less than perfect.” 

Research professor Brene Brown warns that perfectionism shouldn’t be confused with self-improvement. In this interview with Forbes magazine she comments that healthy striving is self-focused: how can I improve. Perfectionism is other-focused: what will they think?

To be conquered by our own negativity and narrow-mindedness is truly a shame. It doesn’t have to be that way.

Conquering those demons requires honesty about our fears and failings, which is never easy. We must acknowledge our weaknesses and work to overcome them. Realizing that other people struggle with their own doubts and limitations can help us change our perspective. Once we’re able to see through a more neutral lens our feelings and attitudes will change for the better!