The Kindness of Strangers

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When scanning the headlines over our morning oatmeal we often see words like death, killing, bombings, unemployment, and so on. 

So, when was the last time you saw the word “kindness” in a headline (this post not included!)

The vast majority of the 24/7 news cycle is negative and I truly believe this has an effect on society as a whole. I wrote a post awhile back about how the latest shooting rampage gave me nightmares, something I hadn’t experienced in a long time. It’s downright depressing and, thanks to technology, its constant. 

This is why efforts like The Kindness Challenge are so important. Receiving a steady diet of “junk food” is going to have detrimental effects on the consumer. Conversely, a balanced diet that includes positive news, will have a healthy effect on people. There are many changes and improvements needed to make the world better. Change is hard and with all the bad news it’s very difficult to feel hopeful.

The everyday kindness of the back roads more than makes up for the acts of greed in the headlines. ~Charles Kuralt, On the Road With Charles Kuralt

I’ve been thinking a lot about the kindness factor in our society and realized so much of it occurs between strangers. According to a report in December 2014 from the Corporation for National & Community Service, one in four Americans volunteer through an organization and two-thirds helped their neighbors in some capacity. I was pleasantly surprised to read this, as the figures were higher than I expected!

The non-profit sector has grown steadily over the last decade adding paid employees, as well as  volunteers to their ranks. Unfortunately, these unsung heroes don’t get a lot of press or compensation. As Gordon Livingston, MD noted in his book, The Thing You Think You Cannot Do:

One of the ironies of the capitalist system is that the largest material rewards go to the most selfish and acquisitive among us while those who dedicate their lives to the benefit of others are customarily the least compensated.

But, kindness has nothing to do with money. Altruistic efforts are their own reward. There are many large and small organizations where volunteers give of their time and talents for the collective good. They do it because it feels good and satisfies a need to make a contribution to a cause they believe in.

We’re also familiar with individual, spontaneous acts of kindness such as Pay It Forward  and Random Acts of Kindness. These websites offer ideas and support on how to give back to society at large.

This past week I noticed a few instances of kindness:

  • A young man from the apartment complex changed the tire for an elderly resident
  • A twenty-something female in line at the grocery store helped a mom with three small children unload her grocery cart
  • A man in front of me at the post office let me go ahead of him because he had several packages, while I only had one

These small, yet admirable efforts remind us that there are opportunities to show kindness all around us. Everyday and everywhere we go. However, we must become more aware of them. I believe our fast-paced lives rob us of this awareness. In addition, with so many people glued to their smartphones, we tend to miss these opportunities. Becoming more mindful of our surroundings and the people in them is a good way to recognize them.

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Whether we donate to charity, volunteer with an organization, or help a neighbor/stranger, kindness can be shared with anyone.

We should become prime examples of compassion for our fellow-man and teach our children to do the same.

I’ve always tried to be a good neighbor and helpful when an opportunity presents itself. However, this challenge has me thinking about volunteering. There are so many worthy causes, it will be hard to choose. But, I’m committed to researching what’s in my area and giving some time and energy to helping others. I’ll keep you posted!

While it might not be possible to single-handedly change the world, it is possible to change your own little corner of it…one kind act at a time. Let’s strive to be leaders when it comes to kindness and challenge those around us to follow our lead!

The Kindness Challenge


 

 

 

 

 

 

Blogging From A to Z Challenge – U

 

A man’s under layers shouldn’t be stuck in the past.
Or anywhere else. ~ Tommy John

 


“U” is for underwear; specifically the Tommy John brand.

I’m deviating from the Travel theme because I have no good photos of anything  I encountered on a trip that starts with a U.

So, I’m looking at men’s underwear again.

Actually, it’s another excuse to promote the Know Your Balls campaign for Testicular Cancer Awareness Month. It’s designed to get the boys talking about…well, The Boys! 

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Men in general don’t talk much about serious stuff; they mostly keep it light and enjoy conversations that involve sports, beer, and sex. That’s why it’s up to us gals to get a dialogue going about really important things, such as health issues.

Tommy John underwear has gotten good reviews, so I’m thinking maybe all the men in my life will get a pair next Christmas, along with some socks & undershirts. In the meantime, I’ll embarrass them further with my insistent urging that they begin self-checks…it elevates “handling the package” to a whole, new level!


 

Blogging From A to Z Challenge – T

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Blogging From A to Z Challenge – T

Because today happened to be the letter T, I decided to write a “companion post” to the one I published this morning.

“T” is for testicular cancer, which one man is diagnosed with and another man dies from every single day. 

This is a serious disease and while breast cancer has gotten a lot of press, you don’t hear so much about this type. Which is somewhat surprising considering it’s “a man’s world” where they earn more money for doing the same jobs and occupy the majority of top executive positions in business. You’d think their diseases would garner a lot of concern and attention, but they don’t. So, why not?

I realize that talking about the male genitalia can be a bit awkward. But, there was a time when discussing women’s breasts openly was unheard of, and look at how far we’ve come! Now, we give them fun nicknames like “hooters, tatas, and snuggle pups.” Breastfeeding is an (almost) accepted practice in public places. Once used only as an advertising vehicle for bras, breasts are now used to sell  just about anything you can think of.

If we can have candid discussions and give widespread consideration to The Girls, we should be able to do the same for The Boys. Particularly, as it relates to something as serious as cancer. It’s only fair…and the right thing to do.

 April is Testicular Cancer Awareness Month, so take a minute to view the Campaign video and learn more at the Testicular Cancer Foundation.